Where's the Love

It is so easy to get caught up in the chick flick movie love. In the music that romanticizes playing in the sprinklers. Should we not expect it? Can we not have it? You cannot tell me Frank Sinatra could only sing. For a man to sing the words he sang, he had to have passion. The kind of passion any girl could dream of. Sure not every wife can be Jessica Alba and not every husband can be Brad Pitt, but we can find something that turns us on and make love happen.

I think when people say they lost love that they just stopped trying. Love takes effort. It's not easy to come up with poetic verses and planned evenings. You actually have to go to the store and buy flowers. You have to light the candles. Instead people are lazy and instead of working at something (that to me seems most important) they continue to sit and lay feathered in dreams. Dreams that cannot come true when you never take the time to care.

And it's not like every girl expects or even wants flowers. They just want to know you tried, that you care. Guys don't expect you to be perfect and never burn the pan. They just want to know you tried and are there. We all want the same dang things: appreciation, which involves love. You have to understand each others love language and if you truly want them, you'll do whatever it takes to make them feel loved, to make them happy.

A good friend once told me he'll know it's real love when it's no longer "I could live with them", but that "I can't live without them"

Personally, I hate perfect people, because they are all fakers. No one is perfect and no one wants to be around someone who's good at everything. When someone else slips it makes me feel human. I laugh more because we all know what it's like to be there. To be embarrassed, come off wrong, or make no sense. I think imperfections can be endearing.

But I'm a dork who has an easy time loving everyone else's quirkiness, but despising my own. I'm a hypocrite to my own desires. I say I hate perfect people because they are fake, yet I'm obsessed with wanting to say the right things and never mess up. (As if I can become God tomorrow). So we all struggle with laughing at our own follies.

I just think we should all remember Elder Wirthlin who just told us to laugh more. Move on when we slip. If you don't hold me against my own spilled milk, I won't hold you against yours. What would happen if we all gave each other the benefit of the doubt and just moved on. HOLY COW we'd be so much more happier. Love would exist more in the world. But instead we think everyone is out to get us and make us feel bad. When in reality, no one wants to be alone and only jerks are closed off to having more friends. So if you're trying to please a jerk, just thank them for being human and move on. You can't be with everyone. Thank goodness.

You need to stop worrying about laying your head on their shoulder. You need to stop wondering what he could have meant by saying something else. Just say it. Look at her if she's beautiful. Holy cow you could even tell her. Look at him if he catches your eye. Allow feelings to happen. Freak we have them for a reason. TO LOVE.

We fear rejection and embarrassment. Is that it? Why because now you think less of yourself? That's dumb, get over that. O but I've lived here for awhile...the fear of going too far because they'll think you want more than "just friends". This is a tough one because we send and receive vibes in different ways. If they don't get the hints, just be straight up and nice about it. Don't beat around the bush and the other side needs to be understanding. We've all been on both sides. be understanding. but don't stop loving. never stop loving.

Why because your ego tells you you're allowed everything you desire? get over that. We don't even know what's best for us at times. It takes trial and error. (but maybe that's just me). I have to take 20 pictures before I get one that's right. It's the same way with first impressions, public speaking, math, learning a new talent, etc... welcome to life dearest. but it's so worth it when you work so hard for something and you get it. And you will, if you try hard enough, you will.

People need to stop worrying about saying the perfect thing and making sure everything goes according to plan. People just need to live. Live and Love. that's all I got to say. God fills in the rest. recognize that blessing and use it.