contention is of the devil, I know this. Meet my roommate.

No, I don't take credit for the being the bigger person, but at least I said it.
tomorrow, I'll be better.
Tonight? I'm ready for a smack down.

Ladies:

A family member of mine passed away this week. This person was Jewish, so I have to keep in accordance with Jewish law as in pertains to certain things during the funeral and bereavement period.

I'm notifying you of this to let you know that I have to insist that through Monday night there is no parties/gatherings/movie groups/insert-any-other-name-for-party/gathering.

I have no problem if any of you want to have a friend or two over (it is your house too), but since it is also my house too and I need to follow Judaic law for the death of someone I love, I'm going to need your cooperation on this. I cannot observe shiva with loud parties/gatherings of friends/music/loud movies/screaming/loud laughter/etc. If you have plans for any such event, you'll need to have it moved to someone else's house. I hope that you can respect this loss in my life and not make an issue of it. My desire is to have this time period (through Monday night) go smoothly and I would truly hate to have to call outside forces if noise became a problem.

Emilee

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Oh I thought Shiva was for parents and siblings. You must have been really close, I am sorry for your loss. For the most part we were planning on being away this weekend. We will try to respect your need to mourn in whatever way you wish. However, your way of demanding respect is a bit insolent, which yes, seems ironic.

Best,

Kayla

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Shiva is a seven degree level of relations in terms of how it is used in mourning, thus, not just for children/parents. Though, as someone with Jewish relatives, I assume I know more on Judaic law than the general population as it seems in this case.

It would also appear that you don't understand the actual context of my email or the definition of insolent. Quite interesting.

You are, indeed, a master at communication expressing some sort of positive emotion while throwing in some sort of backbiting. If I were of the same short intelligence level as you, I may not notice it. I'm sure it has served you well as it likely works appropriately with those with whom you associate with.

My sincere regards of appreciate for your cooperation during the mourning period. I'm sure, if anything, the Lord approves of your proper behavior for such a significant and spiritual event.

Best,

Emilee


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I'm really glad you assume to judge my character. I understand you assume the absolute worst in me, which is something else I'm sure the Lord approves of, but how dare you accuse on such little ground. I never claimed to be master of the English language or Jewish culture. I just knew it had to deal with immediate family. And seven degrees of mourning as in: father, mother, son, daughter, brother, sister, and spouse? I guess that is more than just child/parent, my bad. I don't understand it; I wasn't ever saying I did. However, that doesn't matter, because you already know me so well.

I know... you have a novel you can write of things that we have done to you to evoke such insolent remarks on your end (did I use the word more correctly?). I too have gotten past the point of understanding where these assumptions have been predicated. You obviously think I am very full of myself and place myself in some cloud of irrational thought. You, of course, are so high above me. Go ahead and think what you wish, I really don't care either. But bringing my standing with the Lord into this, bold, very bold of you.

-Kayla